How to Talk about Difficult Topics without Fighting
It’s challenging to talk about difficult topics without fighting because most of us have never been taught how to work together to find positive solutions. Disagreements arise because we have different perspectives, beliefs, and expectations, but there are things we can do to make things go more smoothly.
Ideas to Talk about Difficult Topics without Fighting
- Avoid discussing issues when you are riled up.
- Consciously decide to sit down and talk about things with good intentions.
- Get rid of distractions and interruptions.
- Use “I” statements instead of ones that begin with “You.”
- Listen actively.
- Be kind, gentle, and loving.
- Talk about the issue, not your partner.
- Find ways to work together.
- Define the topic together.
- Brainstorm solutions together.
- Each of you choose something you will work on.
- Make rules for how you interact so you can do it kindly.
- Take breaks if you need to.
- Be empathetic toward your partner.
- Don’t see your partner as the enemy.
- Avoid trying to win, just work with your partner.
- Remember that you love your partner.
Talking about difficult topics is much easier when you change the patterns that have gotten in the way of positive, productive interactions in the past. All it takes is shifting your behavior to build harmony and work together rather than against each other. What are your thoughts? What’s worked for you?
